Hopefully soon I'll have the time and energy to write her birth story.
Her as in Lucille Marie, AKA Lucy.
Yep, we had a baby. She was born at 18:48 on Sept. 1, weighing in at 7 lbs 5 oz, 19 3/4 inches long.
Gotta make this short since who knows when she'll wake up!
Here's a couple things I've learned in the past ten days:
- C-Section recovery not as bad as I thought it would be
- My husband is an amazing father. I knew that before she was even born, but now I really know it, if you know what I mean. He's better at changing diapers than I am, and absolutely adores Lucy. They kind of just hang out together, it's really cute.
- It sucks being stuck to one room with her, due to her low white blood cell count. And not having visitors is hard. But anything to keep her safe we're willing to do. But she's basically quarantined for a month.
- Face masks make my skin really dry. I caught a cold in the hospital, and while I feel better, I have to wear a mask around the baby until my cough goes away.
- I can get by on sleeping in one hour chunks during the night, but should probably nap more during the day. I tend to forget I just had major surgery and try to take on the world (chores) even though Andy reminds me not to overdo it.
- Lucy is a noisy sleeper, but can sleep through anything (dogs barking, videos on the laptop)
- I don't think I realized just how busy we would be between feedings, diaper changes, burping, pumping breastmilk, nursing, napping, baby laundry and finding time for the dogs. I should totally be sleeping right now.
- I never thought making a phone call would be a task. I don't normally enjoy talking on the phone, I'm much more of a texter/IM'er. But now it's like, okay, she just fell asleep, so what should I do with that precious time in between? I usually choose nap or read a book. I feel bad for those who would like to talk with me on the phone, but sometimes I just can't drum up the energy to do that. I never thought a phone call would require energy.
I'm sure I'll be learning lots more as the days, weeks, months and years go on. I'm so glad we did this, I think that's the biggest thing I've learned. I love my daughter, and hopefully her immune system will be up to par soon and she'll be able to meet everyone who loves her already.
This had better not come back to bite me in the butt one day, but I hope I stay able-bodied and independent for the rest of my life. I know, you're thinking, "That's a pretty obvious thing to say, Steph." And I don't want anyone reading this to think that I'm not excited about our daughter's impending arrival. I have never wanted something more in my life. Being a mom is a title I've wanted for a long time.
I'm getting to that point in pregnancy where it's getting harder and harder to do stuff on my own or without a lot of rest before hand, and for someone as independent as I am, it's really frustrating.
I'll be 34 weeks tomorrow, and I know I've only got a few more weeks. But it's going to be a long few weeks, I feel.
The day I can't fit behind the wheel I think will be hardest. I'm doing good so far, but even the short five-minute drive to The News Messenger is getting taxing. Not because I'm exhausted, but because the baby likes to jam her butt under my ribs when I get behind the wheel for some reason. Try sitting up straight to see over the dash when you're already short but have something that is demanding you be reclined. I can't even sit on the couch to watch TV because of where she likes to hang out, I usually have to lay down. She's cooperating right now as I write this. And I sound like a mean mommy by complaining about where she likes to hang out, which makes me feel bad. I just wish I had more real estate to offer her right now.
I like being able to drive around town and go to the library or Target or wherever else on my day off, and that's getting harder and harder. Going to my friend's shower in Granite Bay last Saturday was so taxing I was K'O'd on the couch for the rest of the night.
I have at least three more Tuesday night meetings to cover until I go out on leave. My crappy abdomen real estate makes that a chore, too. Last Tuesday at City Council, I tried sitting to type, but I felt like a T-Rex, because I'd find a comfy position and then butt would go in ribs again, so I'd have to sit bolt upright but that would mean not reaching my laptop's keyboard. Finally I just slouched and dealt with the uncomfiness for a couple minutes until she chose to not stick her tush in the air. I even tried hooking the chair in front of me with my foot, sliding it closer and putting my feet up. That offered temporary relief. Eventually I took up my post standing in the back of the Pavilion to type, but then my feet started to swell and hurt so I had to go back to sitting. I guess the police chief noticed my antics because he asked how I was holding up at the end of the meeting and said it was entertaining to watch me find the most comfortable position to take notes in. And I'm only getting bigger from here, folks. I want to cry thinking about how I'm going to survive the next few Tuesday night meetings.
I'm dreading going to a local museum to interview the executive director for a story, because I know it's going to take longer than it should because some of the docents are going to sideline me and want to talk about my pregnancy/the baby. And it's not that I don't want to talk about it. It's that I have work to do and don't have an hour to shoot the breeze when I've got six other stories in the hopper for the following week. But I need to be polite, so I'm faced with a conundrum. And this happens all the time. I'll be on assignment and people will want to talk about what's going on in my uterus, but I'm working for goodness sake!! Just because I"m prego doesn't mean I can just totally slack off and not get my other stuff done.
But I want to slack off. I'm tired. I'm huge. Halfway through the day, I just want to take a nap. But I also don't want to stop working yet.
When it comes down to it, I'm just not used to being physically limited, and it's really hard for me to not be able to do more and more stuff. I know it's just the beginning of what's to come. I know that I won't be able to go out on Friday and Saturday nights like I'm used to, and that's fine. Because I'm really excited to be a mom.
It's just hard being physically limited, like having to go to bed early or not being able to drive far distances or needing to lay down and rest more often. I know out social lives and sleep schedules will be limited, and that will be hard, but extremely rewarding. But being physically restricted is hardest because I like being able to do things for myself, like putting groceries away or even grocery shopping without having to pee three times while there. Or not being able to wash dishes, load the dishwasher, fold laundry or cook dinner because I'm having Braxton Hicks and have to lay down.
I had no idea late pregnancy would be such a challenge. This gives me all the more reason to hit the gym on a regular basis after she's born so that I am in shape and won't be at risk for health problems that could physically limit me later in life, like heart disease, diabetes or obesity. Because if I can't take six weeks of being limited like this, I sure as heck couldn't handle the rest of my life in a similar fashion.
Not sure if this could be considered nesting, but I had a burst of energy to conquer a couple of projects around the house tonight even though it's Wednesday and I'm usually beat. I was tired when I got home but suddenly was overcome with the need to do the following:
- Sanitize and put away all 10 pacifiers we received at last weekend's baby shower.
- Completely take apart and wipe down with Lysol wipes the hand-me-down high chair we recently received.
- Wash receiving blankets and the aforementioned high chair cushion.
- Organize diapers in the baby's closet with the newborn ones the most easily accessible.
- Fight the urge to drive to Target and purchase a hamper and laundry detergent for the baby's clothing so I can start washing it.
It doesn't help that I've had numerous people tell me they think I'm going to be early because of my height. But if my height was a factor, wouldn't I look 12 months prego by now? Come on, peeps.
Regardless, being 32 weeks is just a reminder that I've only got five to go until the baby is considered full term. I feel like we're running out of time to get stuff done, but then again, she has a place to sleep, clothing, a place to have a diaper change, food and two parents who can't wait to meet her. What more could she want or need?
I decided the title to this was more friendly than my original choice, which was "They made me do the GD glucose tolerance test."
That's right. I got to kick it at Kaiser Lincoln for three hours, drink what tasted like pure sugar and have have my blood drawn four times in a three-hour period.
(I say this like I'm the only woman who's ever had to do this. I know I'm not, but it still sucks.)
The thing that got me about this test is that it went against everything I've been told to do during pregnancy.
Eat a snack before bed. I recall the lady at the late pregnancy class telling us not to eat close to bed time because heartburn is sure to follow. But me being a sucker for following the rules, I downed my half peanut butter and jelly and glass of milk at 10 p.m. Quite a tasty combination. Never been much of a milk drinker, but I am now.
Not eat for 12+ hours. Even before this baby, I've always been big about eating something first thing when I get up, and it's usually a banana. Not eating anything was torture, but I was glad I could drink water up until I drank the glucose beverage. By the time I got done, I wasn't shaky, but I'm pretty sure my stomach had started eating itself. I felt bad for the baby, cuz she didn't do anything wrong.
Not drink water for three hours. I think that was the most difficult thing. Anyone who knows me knows that I always have a bottle of water in my purse and a huge glass of water on my desk at work at all times. My grandpa used to tease me when I was little and say we needed to bring Gunga Din with us on outings so someone could carry my water. I've been told to make sure and drink plenty of water throughout the day not only to hydrate but to ward off Braxton Hicks. Also, the less hydrated I am, the harder my veins are to find, and they're already really difficult to locate. Props to the phlebotomists at Kaiser, they rock.
Stay seated. I was told if I walked around too much or even slept it could throw off the test due to burning calories. I've been told to stay active, and I would have loved to walk to the library during one hour of the test since they were open that day and right across the street. I wouldn't have minded the stay seated thing as much if Kaiser had wi-fi at that particular clinic, which they don't and my phone would barely pick up a signal unless I was right next to a window. So I pretty much set up camp in a corner next to the window and watched Netflix and read magazines. Something I generally love doing, but the no food and water thing kinda put a damper on that. It was nice running into friends during the first hour, that was nice.
I don't have the results to the test yet. I'm hoping the one-hour results were just a fluke and I don't have gestational diabetes. But if I do, I'll do everything I can to keep it under control. It's funny, because they say you sacrifice a lot when you become a mom, but it starts way before the child is born. I don't mind it though. I'm really proud to be able to have taken care of her so well so far, and that we've made it this far, so I think I would do a six hour glucose test if it meant she'd be born healthy.
Summer just started and dayum it's hot already!!
But that could just be the pregnancy talking. I've been roasting since mid-May : )
We had our late pregnancy class/hospital tour last night at Kaiser Roseville.
I was so glad we did the tour. I think it boosted our confidence about getting through the last trimester and knowing that Kaiser's labor and delivery philosophy are pretty well-aligned with ours.
I like that I'll be able to get up and walk around during labor and not be confined to the bed.
And the rooms there! Both the labor and delivery room and postpartum room are like hotel rooms (but with all of the medical gear).
I'm feeling pretty calm about the whole having-another-human-come-out-of-my-body thing.
For now.
We'll see what happens when labor starts.
Baby girl's kicks and jabs aren't as painful/strong as I thought they would be. Don't get me wrong, they're noticeable, but maybe she already likes me and is being gentle.
I figured out what the rhythmic kicking I'd been feeling was. They're hiccups. I always wondered what that would feel like and now I know.
As tough as I like to be and as much as I don't like to do less than I usually do because I am pregnant, I've learned to step back a little bit at work.
I've been taking on less because when I do more than I should, my body feels it. I don't like having to come home from work and just lay on the couch all night. Sometimes I still have to do that, but since I've lightened my workload it doesn't happen as much.
I guess we all have to say uncle sometimes. : )
I decided last night that I should update this baby more often since the, em, baby is coming this fall. I was going to write all of this stuff down, but I think already scribbling in a notebook all the livelong day makes it hard to want to write stuff down.
Last night was the first time I felt the baby kick from the outside, which was pretty neat in the fact that it means Andy will get to feel her kick soon. I say her because yes, we're having a girl. At least, the ultrasound tech said with 85 to 90 percent certainty that the baby has lady bits and not the other way around.
I've been feeling a little bit of activity since about 16 weeks and was able to rule out gas a couple weeks later because it felt like I was having twitches in my stomach instead of a grumbly stomach. It's a cool feeling, but kind of weird at the same time. Maybe this makes me a bad mommy to say it, but sometimes her jabs are a little uncomfy. But I'm getting more used to it so it's getting a little less weird. I still get a little caught off guard when I'm sitting in a meeting, focused on taking notes and all of the sudden feel a little one-two punch. But I'm really grateful to feel her kick after the last two experiences before her. It's reassuring to feel her because I know that she's still doing okay in there.
I'm getting used to being greeted by the question "How are you feeling?" by every. single. person. that I don't see every day.
For some reason it really annoyed me in the beginning to be asked that by everyone I ran into. Or maybe that's because shortly after telling everyone we went to a party where all of the 20 people there asked me that same question at some point during the day, and I was already tired and cranky from being pregnant in the first place.
I'm glad to finally be showing. I still barely look pregnant but it's nice to see some evidence from the outside of what's going on in the inside.
I'm starting to think there's something wrong with me.
Ever since high school, I swear to god I can't keep a close girlfriend longer than a year and I'm kind of getting sick of it.
And the bad thing is, I know it's all me. I know that's cliche to say "It's not you, it's me" but it's so true!
Here's how it usually goes: I'll make a new friend, get really close really fast, and about a year in I'll suddenly find something that annoys me about them and then bolt.
It happened my junior year of high school, and I can't even tell you what drove me crazy.
It happened in college with a super close friend I made working at my first California Starbucks ever. That was one of those Steph-got-a-boyfriend-who-she'd-later-marry-and-chose-to-spend-all-of-her-waking-moments-with-him type of thing. I feel bad about that, but we're all girls and come on, we all do it at some point.
And it happened again this year, and thinking about it now I'm really bummed. We were joined at the hip for a couple of months to now nothing, and again, it's my bad.
The thing that sucks is I really miss her sometimes, because she is a really cool chick. We still see each other once in awhile, but it's not how it used to be. I know I'm the one that pushed her away, and I'm really sorry I did.
I just don't know what this means for the rest of my life. I've always been the girl that hangs out with the guys, and gets along with guys so much better because there's less drama.
But as much fun as fart jokes, horror movies and beer power hours are (and I love all of those things, don't get me wrong) I can't really talk about emotional and feelings crap with my guy friends that I can with other girls.
It would be nice to make a close girlfriend or two and keep being friends with them for longer than two years.
I just wonder how I can do that with my track record. Is it possible? I hope to find the answer one day.
